GREETINGS. I AM PASTOR BENNETT, and I was born and raised in California’s Bay Area. I gave my life to Christ at the age of nineteen and received my calling to preach the gospel of Jesus Christ at age twentyone. I evangelized for sixteen years before accepting my calling of pastorship in 2002, when I founded Walls of Faith Ministries. It was God who called me to the unchurched generation and to urban communities, where I have witnessed and counseled many abusive marriages and relationships. At the present, this is where I am still plowing and cultivating families, and rebuilding communities, one person at a time.
THE WORD “APOSTASY” means the renunciation of a religious faith and an abandonment of a previous loyalty. The synonym for this word is “defection,” which means a conscious abandonment of allegiance or duty (to a person, cause, or doctrine). The synonym for defection is “abandonment,” which means to give up with the intent of never again claiming a right or interest in—for instance, to abandon property or a relationship. Hmm, are you starting to follow me here? The title of this book is The Apostasy of Marriage. Oftentimes we relate this word to God as it is referenced in the book of Hebrews, chapter 6, verses 4 through 7. However, we do not see the correlation of this meaning or relating to relationships in general, but only to God, with whom we have a relationship—that is, a covering, agreement, and so on.
Chapter III: The Vow: Did We Really Get It?
WE BEGIN THIS CHAPTER by revisiting the vows that are expressed to each party in the wedding ceremony. Although vows differ from wedding to wedding and couple to couple, we find a common statement that seems to be a part of the vows exchanged no matter how customized they are. That statement is: “Do you, Felicia, take Donald to be your lawful wedded husband, and do you promise to love him in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse?” He . . . Nah! Maybe this part of the vow should read “for good times or for hard times.” It appears this statement would be much easier to relate to instead of “for better or for worse.” The phrase “for better or for worse” seems to imply that we should accept whatever things or circumstances are presented to us in our marriage, and it has often been taken literally and misunderstood in the wedding vow ceremony. I have gathered a good amount of statistics from different ethnic groups concerning the comprehension of the term “for better or for worse.” Most of them viewed this term to mean that through it all I must do whatever it takes to make my marriage last. Well, let’s explore this.